I was in group therapy one day and some of the other women and I were talking about hair while waiting for the session to officially start. One girl was wearing her hair differently and we were complimenting her, which lead to everyone else complaining about their hair in one way or another.
Another woman told me my hair always looked nice and she said that she noticed that I was always playing with it in a “flirty sort of way”. I don’t know if those words had the same meaning to her as they did to me (she is from an older generation) but I was so embarrassed. I like my group but there’s no one in there who has caught my eye, they’re like distant family or work colleagues. I didn’t want them to think I was sitting there trying to flirt with everyone!
I said, “Don’t worry you guys, I’m not flirting with you! it’s just a nervous habit!”
Now I worry that I play with my hair too much. I don’t want to give off the wrong social cues just because I never quite know what to do with my hands and my hair never seems to sit as perfectly as I would like it to. I play with my jewellery a lot too, does that have any sort of meaning?
P.S I would like to think my flirting is a bit more advanced than twirling my hair!