After years of absolutely no contact an ex suddenly decided to drop me an email.
Firstly, our relationship didn’t end well (they never do for me!) and I hated him for quite some time. Then time went on and I forgot about him, he wasn’t important nor was he in any part of my life anymore. I heard he was with someone else, maybe he even got married. None of it mattered by then, I was dating other people.
So why suddenly did he feel the need to email me? He said he just wanted to see how I am or something along those lines. Is this normal ex behaviour considering we ceased contact/caring about each other years ago? I’m always suspicious but I was genuinely curious about it all. I took the bait, I guess and I responded impulsively.
I said exactly what I was thinking- “What in the actual ______?” (fill that in with your own swear word if you like).
He went on to be a bit passive aggressive but also mentioned that he didn’t have my number anymore and wanted to say a general hello and see how I am.
If I said I was miserable, would it make a difference? Would he be happy that my life is so crappy? Would he feel sad and want to support me? Would I let him? No. Would I want to meet up and have a coffee or a drink or anything like that? Absolutely not. So what was the point of his email? He’s a shifty guy, I don’t trust that he genuinely just wanted to know how I am.
It could be possible that he is having relationship problems or is single and thought he would contact me. Why is he even thinking about me these days? I haven’t been thinking about him until I got that stupid email.
I suppose there is a slim chance that he really did just want to know I was okay. Maybe he thought I was dead. I don’t really believe in this possibilty though.
My final response to our brief series of emails was to say that I am fine. Then I wrote “bye”. He has nothing to reply now and that’s how I want it to be. He belongs in my past, not in my current life and not in my future.